So, you're engaged.
Congrats, man. We're seriously happy for you. Your phone's probably been blowing up with congratulatory texts and calls from friends and family who are trying to squeeze their way into the engagement party or wedding guest list. Can't blame them! Don't be surprised if your acquaintances laugh a wee-bit harder at your jokes over the next few weeks.
But once the elation of your proposal subsides (sorry - we know, it never will 😀), it's time to get to business and create a (queue the anxiety) checklist. Good news is, no need to resort to meditation or tequila. We're here to provide you with a fluff-free Groom's checklist that'll take it easy on your mind and wallet.
Nail down the budget:
Yikes! We know. But this made it to numero uno because we want to be up front and inform you that 💵(actually 💸 might be more fitting since it's a bit more contentious when the money is floating away as opposed to streaming in) is the top reason why engaged couples fight in 2019. But you're a Marke groom, remember? So we aren't going to let that happen! Envision your wedding and evaluate your income right now, and decide together how much you guys want to spend. Then, see if anyone else will be contributing (pro-tip: top brunch spots to take your parents in NYC) and come up with a nice healthy number.
Book the venue:
With budget and guest count in mind, you've gotta lock up the location nice and early. Why? Everything - and we mean everything - depends on your venue. We suggest selecting somewhere comfortable, spacious, and somewhat easy for you and your guests to get to. Unless you're going destination, of course. In that case, let's be friends!
Get the crew together:
Ask your groomsmen to stand by you at the altar and in the months leading up to your big day. In other words, get the ball rolling on your bachelor party. Pro-tip: you don't need to go to Vegas to have a great time.
Hire your squad:
If you're planning everything yourselves, all the power to you. We really respect your DIY hustle. But if you need a little help, don't let ego get in the way of hiring a wedding planner. There are so many out there, that it can get overwhelming. So if you're going that route, we suggest keeping it simple and lock in someone who gets you guys. One meeting or quick call should give you a good sense of their vibe.
Hit the market for your attire, and don't forget the accessories. This is a solid time to decide what your wedding party will be wearing, too. Pro-tip: it's a good look if all of your groomsmen are wearing the same color suit, tie, and hankie.
Create your wedding website & register:
Having your own wedding site is pretty much a given at this point. It's where you can relay info to your guests before you actually send out the official invites. The Knot and Zola are the go-to's when it comes to online registries, but you can definitely keep it old-school and stay off the grid.
Buy your paper(less-post):
It's time to figure out how you want to invite your guests to your big day. It's a pretty exciting milestone because it really hits you once you see it IRL. Traditionally, you can go with good old fashioned quality paper for the invites, envelopes, and RSVP cards. Invites from Crane are super elegant, while Zazzle takes a more modern approach. If you want to be super-millennially, consider going paper-free with Paperless Post. You'll save some money & trees, but also raise some eyebrows, especially from your grandparents.
Plan the ceremony & party details:
Alright, it's time to get down to the meat & potatoes.
- What kind of ceremony do you guys want to have? Let your officiant (here's a list of approved ones by state) know exactly how you want it to go. Also, find out if any pre-wedding meetings are necessary
- What kind of party do you want to have? Loop in your wedding planner, if you have one, with plans for the actual celebration 🍾Pro-tip: host an after-party, and thank us later :)
- Pay some attention to your rehearsal dinner, morning-after brunch, and any other ancillary events
Shop for the hardware:
Try-On and purchase your wedding bands. We know a couple of the guys at Marke New York 😉who'll make it as easy as humanly possible to not only get this done, but get it done the right way. Now it's starting to feel really real, right?
Legally tie the knot:
Hit your state registrar's office to obtain this must-have (you literally need it to get married; some of us found this out the hard way) document. Don't forget to bring it with you to your ceremony!
Choose a point person, and GET MARRIED!:
Well, the big day is almost upon us. If you don't have a wedding planner or day-of coordinator, task a friend or family member to be the go-to so you can relax and enjoy the day. The last thing you want to worry about is logistics. We leave you with this: be prepared mentally for not everything to go exactly as planned. If you accept that, it'll make your wedding much more special and enjoyable. The planning and hard work are behind you - time to celebrate!